Welcome To The Blog
You’ve arrived at the Letters from a Young Black Woman blog. I’m excited to share my experiences and interest with you, and I hope that they leave you:
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Refreshed
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Inspired
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Enriched
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Affirmed
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Comforted * Refreshed * Inspired * Enriched * Affirmed *
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A unique assortment of personal anecdotes and reflections artfully presented through the medium of letters. Delve into the intricacies of life's myriad experiences, encompassing its highs, lows, and everything in between. Prepare for an engaging journey filled with contemplation, discoveries, and meaningful interactions.
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Come along as Allie dishes out her top-notch beauty secrets and fave products that have passed her beauty test. Buckle up to uncover handpicked tips and suggestions designed especially for your beauty needs!
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Dive into thrilling travel escapades and adventures. Rating the hidden gems and popular spots in every city or country she visits, providing recommendations for fellow globetrotters looking to embark on their own unforgettable journeys. So, fellow wanderlusters, take note as we serve up the crème de la crème of travel experiences from around the globe. Are you ready to embark on this exciting exploration?
So, fellow wonderlusters, take note as we serve up the crème de la crème of travel experiences from around the globe.
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I Don’t Want Any More Friends
I don’t think I want any more friends. I’m far too jaded. Building hope for long-lasting connection only to be met with disappointment. I’ve had men drive me to anger by their actions but when it came to friends it cut much deeper—leaving me heartbroken and confused. With each drive to the heart, I’ve learned more and more of what I can’t accept and yearn for from those surrounding me. And with each formed bond, I learn how shockingly affirming a once-upon-a-time stranger can be. So much so that they become woven into your daily existence. You develop gratitude for the shoulder to lean on and the joy they bring
That’s if it’s done right.
The Internet Ruined My Skin
Day after day, I’d examine my pores hoping they’d be free of black and whiteheads. When they weren’t, I’d slap patches on the fiery craters and fall asleep looking like a child’s sticker collection. Before I could appreciate another day on this earth, I was peeling patches and hoping they completed the job of excavating the bacteria on my skin. I tested luxury recommendations and dermatologist-approved products at Ulta and Sephora. Only to return for an exchange of whatever new solution I had found during one of my deep dives.
Letter 11: Dear Confidence
Cause everyone thinks you live in stolen glances in a mirror and the ability to bravely walk out into the world, when you’re really defined by the decision to live life in your own lane.
You’re the decision to break away from the cycles that only result in hurt and regret, even when it leaves us alone and questioning. You’re the decision to not support the same fucked up morals that leave the different and despised feeling less than. You’re the decision to draw boundaries, in stone, if it means that your cup won’t constantly be drained.
I Love Luxury
I love luxury. My lifestyle is a testament to it.
I love every small detail that offers me a life of ease.
I love Gucci, I love Prada. I love Tiffany’s and David Yurman, too. But those are material things, they aren’t the focus of this special admiration.
I love long walks and forgetting the moments passing by as my feet beat the trail.
I love sleeping in. Rolling back and forth as I fall in and out of sleep.
An Intimate Grief
That all changed when the agony visited me more recently. The bereaved was hard to see, outline, or even define. It was more intimate than ever before. So close that I felt wrong that I dared to leave them behind.
Season's Greetings: Experiencing Valentine's Day as a Single Girl
However, I can’t agree with distasteful emotions when they result in a desire to skip the actual holiday.
I could be annoyed, lonely, sad, or frustrated in the 13 days leading up to the 14th, but all that diffuses on the day of.
Passion Fueled, Choice Driven
Writing feels so natural. I don’t say this to sound cocky. I just want you to understand how much I love it. I feel like I belong as a writer. I let my words flow from my thoughts to my pen to paper. And most days it’s as easy as that 3-step process.
I Quit My Passion: Addressing a Failure Mindset
The summer was 2022. I had rebuilt my stamina for a rebrand although I knew I wasn’t fully invested. But for some reason, I thought newfound graphic design skills were going to sell cakes in a market I had no familiarity with. I tried to convince myself that, if business was booming again I’d find my excitement for it again.
Fall In Love With Yourself
Discover what it means to be in love with yourself…I’m serious. Falling in love with yourself can be one of the most beautiful experiences life has to offer. Everyone talks about the joys of romantic love and I’m sure they aren’t exaggerating. What we don’t hear about is how it feels to be immersed in your own love. Some may call it cheesy or corny, but they don’t know. I’ve spent the last few months falling in love with myself and I’ve begun to understand what happiness feels like.
Letter 06: Dear Anxiety
Then I thought: Am I choosing you more than you’re choosing me? Was I allowing you to influence my choices and enabling my stagnation? I blamed a lot of situations on you even though I knew I could’ve done the work to be the decision-maker.
